Who is "my God"?

I have been told that "my God" is judgment and damnation, while other people's god is grace and love and tolerance. Therefore, I thought that I would write and share "my God" with you.

My God is Jehovah or Yahweh (depending on whether you study Greek or Hebrew). I simply address him as 'Father'. There are scriptures that reference God as being our father. Jesus even instructed his followers to pray "Our father, who is in heaven." My own father did the best that he knew how to do when it came to raising me. There were times that he did a good job and times that he didn't do so good. I and every other father have been guilty of mistakes and blunders in parenthood. It is a wonder any children turn out right. I learned many things from my dad and I think that, so far, I have done a pretty decent job with my own sons. So, I see "my God" as a father. The main difference is that he doesn't make mistakes. When I was in my teens, my dad would sometimes say "I don't just want to be your dad; I want to be your friend." That friend part didn't really blossom until I was grown. "My God" seems to want the same thing.

So lets just make a comparison. I am the forth child born to my parents. As my brother was the first born, he was 7 years ahead of me. So for seven years, before I came into the picture, my brother "walked" with our dad: had a relationship with our dad. Had my dad known that I would be coming along in seven years he could have done things differently. My dad was full of advice. He had a saying for any situation. Many of these I pass on to my family and students. One of these was and is "It is better to have it and not need it than to need it and not have it." I first remember him telling me this when he suggested I grab my coat. I am sure he shared this saying with my brother and also with my two older sisters. There were many times when we would be walking along in the woods, hunting, and he would share other advice like "I expect you to obey me without question. If I say stop, you stop. If I say stop and you don't stop or question my telling you to stop, you may just step on a snake and get bit. I may explain to you later the reason or I may not. Just obey." This is great advice. I taught my sons the same advice. My Army drill sergeant shared this with me also. Again, I am sure dad shared this with my brother and sisters.

ADD moment...I told my younger son "You would think that you would learn from your brother's mistakes so that you wont make the same ones when you are his age."

So, what if my older siblings had been instructed to write down all the advice and instructions that dad had given them and then give a copy to their younger siblings? What if, when I came along, they had handed me a notebook full of dad's advice and instruction. All of his "Do this and you will get punished" or "Do this and you will be rewarded." Then I could have just read the notes and avoided much heartache, right? Well at least I would know what he wanted from me. Obeying "take out the trash" would get his approval, while "If you come in after curfew..." would warn of impending danger and punishment if not heeded. I could refer to that notebook for almost anything. There would be very few things that I could come up with that Earl, Pam, and Sandra had not already dealt with. I there was anything not covered in the "manual", I could just ask dad. After all, we did have a father son relationship, right? I could have passed it on down to Deborah, who was born five years after me and then to Melanie who would become part of the family due, to adoption, some 6-7 years after that. None of us would have doubted the things that were in that book. We all know dad and know how he was strict with us. I received my share of punishment, but can recall playing ball with him on the back lot behind our house when I was in 7th or 8th grade. I learned from both things.

Maybe my grandchildren would someday follow the advice in that notebook because they see that I turned out pretty good and it worked for me. They wouldn't know my dad, but they would know me and what my dad had helped me to become. They would recognize that dad believed in judgment but also in love and grace. Tolerance was not a word that described him, during my childhood. He taught us right from wrong and although he loved us just the same, he didn’t tolerate when we made bad choices. He never once said “What you are doing is wrong, but that is your choice.” No! He told you what was wrong and why it was wrong and told you to not do it again. I didn't understand this as a child, but my dad had much more experience than me and what all of his instruction boiled down to was "listen to me and I'll help you avoid the pitfalls. Learn from other peoples' mistakes. Don't do run through the house with your eyes closed or your going to get hurt."

So is this (as dad would say) "clear as muddy water" so far?

Throughout scripture, I can see that God desired to have a relationship with people. It is undeniable. So I have accepted that he wants a relationship with me. How awesome is that? He has, however, established some family rules. He says that if I will only accept his gift of adoption and join with him, in a relationship, he will share in that relationship with me. I don't have to fill out an application or apply to the courts. I merely have to understand that I have lived in opposition to him and turn from that and walk with him.

As I walk with him he teaches me, much the same as my dad did. He has given me written instructions, through his other children that have walked with him before. In those writings I see many stories of the times that he spent with his other children, long before I came along. I see that he is consistent with his children. What he expects from one, he expects from all. He has established guidelines for peace in the family. He has said that if we obey him then he will guide us safely through the unknown territory. He tells us that there are things that we can do and things that we should avoid. He knows what is best for us and tries to guide us away from the harmful things. In the New Covenant (Testament) we see God working in peoples’ lives, through Christ. He not once tells someone “Although what you are doing is considered wrong by some, it is just the way you have chosen to live, so live life to the fullest.” NO! To the woman that was almost stoned for adultery he says “change your lifestyle. It will bring you a death sentence.”
New Testament Ref: John 8:10-12 (New Living Translation) 10 Then Jesus stood up again and said to the woman, “Where are your accusers? Didn’t even one of them condemn you (“sentence you to death”) ?” 11 “No, Lord,” she said. And Jesus said, “Neither do I. Go and sin no more.”

This is one example of a recurring theme throughout the Bible. I don’t see this as a chance to say “Look how he tried to control her life” I remember my childhood and my dad and see as Christ is telling this woman “I see that as you were walking through the forest that you stumbled and fell into some thorny briars. You will not, at this time, die from your injuries. Stand up and get on the right path. Don’t fall into those briars again. They will hurt you. It goes without saying that prolonged exposure to cuts and gashes will lead to loss of blood and infection and even death. Be careful, my child.”

When I was a child, and I did wrong and my dad spanked me, was it because he was a sadistic man who loves to hurt people? Certainly not! He, like every good parent, used punishment to bring about a change in attitude and behavior. Sometimes all it took was a “don’t do that again” (“go and sin no more”) from him.

When I read the notebook that “My God” had his children pass down to me, the Bible, what I see is him telling me how to avoid the pitfalls, how to look at other peoples mistakes and learn from them, and how I shouldn't run blindly without some one to hold my hand and guide me.

People want to make God a hard to understand concept. He is not difficult to understand...not for a dad.